I am thinking thinking thinking about how and if to talk about dating on this little blog of mine. I sometimes startle myself by how how comfortable I am spilling personal details of my own life, and still, I am very protective about what I will give up about the other people in my life. Believe me, the stories are good. But I don't want to hurt feelings or sacrifice important relationships over one silly post (a book deal, though?...whole different story). In fact, a newspaper reporter told me a few weeks ago that she read my entire blog (good Lord, I wonder how many naps she took in the process) and still had no clue why and how my marriage ended. All I could respond to her observation was "yes."
I didn't want this blog to give any more energy than necessary to the other people person who I was divorcing. I wanted to focus on how I was doing, how my son and I were getting through, and now, on the family we are. So no, there aren't those details of exactly what went down. And I am good with that. As I turn my attention away from attorneys and parenting agreements, it's time to put that same kind of thoughtfulness into how I do or do not cover dating. I'm just not sure about that yet. There are pros and cons on each side, including the pro of the crazy, crazy stories that emerge out of this old/new world of meeting up with single men and the con of putting those wackadoodles on the same screen as I write about my son. It may take a bit of stumbling and restarting and saying "to hell with it" and hitting the publish button to figure out.
In the meantime, I've spilled -- just enough -- to the Red Eye, a local paper that ran this story today on single parents and dating. I'm thrilled to be quoted alongside my grrrls Ms. Single Mama and Rachel Sarah of Single Mom Seeking. After you read the full story, check out the nice little sidebar on single parent social networking here. If your local, pick up a copy or twelve!
Do also check out the right-on commentary by Amy Sue Nathan, a fellow single mama, Chicagoan and great support here on Sassafrass.
What are your thoughts, gentle readers? How open should a newly single mama be about dating on her blog?